Self-Love / Not What You Thought

By Liat Berko, Relationship Coach & Couples Healer

These days, everyone’s talking about self-love. It’s everywhere — on social media, in workshops, in posts filled with hearts and glitter. But let’s be real for a moment…Self-love is one of the most challenging things we’ll ever practice.

It’s not just about shopping, getting your nails done, or smoothing things out with Botox. That’s the surface. But what happens when, deep down, you’re carrying frustration, self-judgment, or unprocessed pain? No lipstick or hair color can cover that up.

The energy you radiate doesn’t come from your makeup, it comes from your heart, from your soul.

So what is self-love, really?

It’s the willingness to look inward. To actually listen to what’s going on inside you, even when it’s uncomfortable. Most of us aren’t used to stopping and feeling. Why? Because it’s scary. Because it might open doors we’ve been trying to keep shut past hurt, old disappointments, trauma, shame, self-doubt.

So we make excuses: I don’t have time. I don’t have money. I’m too overwhelmed.But the truth is- those are just defenses.Because facing ourselves takes more courage than booking a beauty appointment.

Where do you start?

First, by pausing. Asking the deeper questions. Listening to the thoughts in your head and asking: Are these thoughts building me up, or tearing me down?

Then, making a decision to move.It doesn’t matter with who, or how. What matters is you do something different.Try something new.Learn. Cry. Dance. Breathe. Feel.

Just explore something out of your comfort zone.

Self-love is not a feeling. It’s an action.It’s a conscious choice to put yourself first, not because you’re selfish,but because no one else can love you the way you can.Not your partner. Not your kids. Not your parents.

It starts with you.

And what happens when you begin?

You grow.You start to shine.Your energy shifts — and suddenly, what you’ve always dreamed of begins to show up in your life.Love. Abundance. Creativity. Fulfillment.

And not because you forced it or chased it but because you were simply being you, aligned, open, and at ease.

Self-love is the gateway to everything good.

And only when you truly love yourself… can you love someone else.As it says: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

If you’re ready to start this journey but don’t know where to begin, I’m here.

I’m Liat Berko, relationship healer, intimacy coach, with a master’s in psychology and deep training in somatic and sacred intimacy healing.

I’m passionate about helping people, especially couples, live in love.With themselves. With their bodies. With their souls. And with each other.

We’re not here to survive. We’re here to live in our own paradise.And you, dear one, are invited to remember that.

 

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With love, Liat 💫